My team and I are always on the look-out for denture wearing success stories. This one by Kristi Lind struck us as kind of interesting and refreshingly frank.
While we try to cover most patient's ‘denture’ issues, Dating with dentures hasn’t been one of them.
According to her blog iweardentures.com, Kristi was 26 when all of her teeth were extracted because of severe tooth decay. She received a full set of dentures but also, and here comes the interesting part, began documenting her experiences on YouTube.
As a YouTube sensation she was peppered with questions. One that she identifies as a common concern is how dentures will affect a person’s dating life.
Rather than re-write her thoughts, we decided to parse her post and reprint large sections. She does a much better job of telling the dating story than we ever could.
It’s clear which sections are directly reprinted from her blog.
Here are Kristi's thoughts on...
The First Date:
Some just aren’t eager to get into the “denture dialogue” before they’ve even gotten to know the potential mate ….Most people would like to avoid that while on a date.
You’re out to eat, you’re having light, flirty conversation, can you imagine talking about your extraction process and nightly cleaning regimen?
Can you seriously see yourself explaining the slow, agonizing decline of your oral health over candlelit dinner for two?
On First Impressions:
When you first say hello, will they be able to tell up front that something is off?
To answer that question, here’s a scenario:
When you buy a new car, do you not suddenly begin to notice all of the other cars like yours on the road? You never saw so many Acadia’s until you purchased one, right? No, they aren’t copying you, you have just become more aware of their presence now that you have one.
Most people are not on the look-out for denture wearers. As much as it may seem that your date is determined to detect your dentures, that’s almost certainly not the case.
For one, most everyone has the first-date jitters. Everything is sort of a blur, you can’t really focus on too much at once.
Your date may notice you have an attractive smile but I doubt they have the time or even the opportunity to fully inspect the situation.
Can they detect it when you are laughing?
Well, let’s be real, here.
When someone laughs, can you detect strange things going on with their palate? Probably not. I know the denture palate is smooth and unnatural but this is not something that can be easily detected when someone is laughing.
If anyone inspects anything while you are laughing, they will probably just end up admiring the fact that you don’t have cavities.
The First Kiss:
So, what about kissing? Will they know?I have no idea. I’ve not kissed someone with dentures.
But, if your date can feel something, what are they going to do? Ask you about it?
Well, in this situation, they might but that would mean they must not have been very into the kiss if they would disrupt it with a boatload of questions about your mouth.
Right? I mean, that’s my logic.
If they are into you and they are into kissing you, chances are, they aren’t going to stop a kiss to investigate your set-up. The only scenario you have to worry about is if you have a problem with loose dentures.
Your dentures aren’t going to “hurt” anyone, if that’s what you’re worried about.
Will dentures affect your ability to kiss? Well, that depends. Do your dentures affect your ability to eat or talk?
If so, they may. If your dentures pop out or flop around in other situations, they will probably do the same whilst kissing. Of course this depends on how involved your kissing technique is.
You could always take it back to the old school and practice kissing on the back of your hand! I kid, I kid.
What If Your Date Notices?
But what if, during the course of the typical dating scenario, they do catch onto the fact that you wear dentures?
What if they call you out on it?
Think about it.
If your date discovered that you wore dentures, what exactly are they going to do with that information? If they ask you about it, they risk looking sort of nutty. So most likely, they will not really acknowledge it.
If they don’t call you back, well, that’s that. Next! Consider it courtesy that they are not wasting your time. If they do call you back, obviously your denture is not a problem.
Overall, dentures should not interfere with your dating life.
Yes, you may meet someone who is uncomfortable dating you because of your dentures. But you may also meet someone who is uncomfortable dating you because you don’t drive a Lexus, aren’t in a band or are having a bad hair day.
Kristi ends by telling her readers:"confidence is everything.If you appear to be self-conscious, that is the vibe you are going to let off.If you are insecure about your dentures, it may be apparent that something is off about you.But during the fun stages, there’s no real reason to have to state up front that you are a denture wearer unless you feel compelled to.Most will probably not be able to tell that you wear dentures and if they can, there’s a strong possibility that they wouldn’t utter a word about it. Kissing and being intimate should not be affected unless your dentures are loose.Have fun, be confident and save the medical history for another day."
And that's just one of the many fun and honest blog posts by Kristi. She also invites others to tell their story. If you've got a denture story, I'm sure Kristi would love to hear from you.
Thank you Kristi for telling it like it is.
And we agree, dentures should not interfere with the important things in your life, like dating!
~Menely Lainas, DD
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